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. Couple of weeks ago OpenCulture posted an entry about a six-part series titled “How TV Ruined Your Life” . While I found it very ironic that there is a TV series talking about how bad TV is for our society and for individual growth, I couldn’t help but agreeing with Charlie Brooke, the program host. For someone who does not own a TV and has no plan to get one, but still follows her favourite programs online, I can see his point. He has a very sarcastic tone, somewhat depressing, throughout the series. However, I recommend everyone watching this series. So far, I have watched couple of them and my intent is to watch them all. The one that stood out for me was the one on the topic of LOVE. Aside from being very creative and having the element of wittiness all throughout the program, I thought this is food for thoughts. I asked myself how I define the concept of LOVE. To be honest I do not know. I know I don’t believe in “love at first sight”. I do not believe in soulmate a...

“Love is when you are thinking … “how can I make you happy?” Attachment is when you are thinking … “why aren’t you making me happy?”      -by Dzogchen Ponlop I realize that this is debatable specially if you are opposed to the philosophy of Buddhism, over acceptance and true lack of selfishness. However, at this moment this is the only thing that calms me down and helps me keep my sanity. I just realized that maybe my definition for philosophy of Buddhism is not that accurate.

This is a cute animation by Louis Clichy and about love, life, and all its ups and downs. It reminded me of “You are not prefect; nor the person you are in love with. All it matters is that whether you are prefect for each other”. From Good Will Hunting A quoi ca sert, l’amour ? On raconte toujours Des histoires insensées A quoi ca sert d’aimer ? L’amour ne s’explique pas ! C’est une chose comme ca ! Qui vient on ne sait d’où Et vous prend tout à coup. Moi, j’ai entendu dire Que l’amour fait souffrir, Que l’amour fait pleurer, A quoi ca sert d’aimer ? L’amour, ca sert à quoi ? A nous donner d’la joie Avec des larmes aux yeux… C’est triste et merveilleux ! Pourtant on dit souvent Que l’amour est décevant Qu’il y a un sur deux Qui n’est jamais heureux… Meme quand on l’a perdu L’amour qu’on a connu Vous laisse un gout de miel - L’amour c’est éternel ! Tout ca c’est très joli, Mais quand tout est fini Il ne vous reste rien Qu’un immense chagrin… Tout ce qui maintenant Te semble déchirant ...

Last night as I was watching an interview with Leonard Cohen , he said something interesting. I don't remember the exact wording but he said “As you get older, you become lonelier, and you need a deeper love.” That is so accurate. God knows how many times I've heard from elderly relatives that you should not wait too long to get married because you become too meticulous. Maybe they are somewhat right but I think the truth is that as you get older and wiser you base your decisions on logic rather than your emotion. You know yourself better and what you are looking for in your future partner. You don't fall in love easily. One small smile or attention from the other person doesn't make you fall for him/her. You become immune to “love at first sight”. I feel safer and hope that other single people out there feel the same way and not feel the pressure that they have to get married. I hope they ignore the social/ cultural expectations that the community imposes on us. In Hea...