27 November 2010

I never learn!

One of my former roommate and now a good friend said “always remember the good things about people”. This stick with me but I wish I could get rid of it. There are some people that I do not want to have anything to do with them. I avoid them for some times and then I forget why I didn’t want them in my life in the first place. By the smallest contact or communication, they are back in my life as if they have never left. For example, I got a txt message from this friend who left to another country months ago. I could not stand her when she was here. Since I knew that was the first time she ever used text messaging, I got supper excited and started to right back. After few messages gone back and forth, I realized what a mistake!!! She got on my nerve only by reading her few messages. Then there is this friend who knows me only when he needs me. Again each time he comes and asks for something, I completely forget that I should not hang out with him.

Sadly, I have other examples...

5 comments:

Deep Blue Sea said...

Many , including myself have same issue.

And I think many use of an approach to try and overcome it.

When something is still fresh in memory, if its important, I try to make a conscious flag in my memory. After long time, If I have to avoid something but can't figure out why, then I just remember the 'avoid' flag and try avoid it strongly knowing there is something.

But If you read my comment, I have used the word 'try' a few times. That's because I have not been very efficient in implementing this strategy.

Maman said...

more reason that we are sisters :)

Grumpy smurf said...

for a moment there I saw my name...I know how you feel azizam! and I hope it will pass soon! Love you and miss you

Lotus said...

Seeing good things in people is deeply connected to trusting your self and not feeling vulnerable.

At the same time, managing your social connections is another side of developing a trust in yourself.

I am not sure if I make any sense :) but when you feel vulnerable, instead of hating people, focus on how you can use the situation to improve yourself and develop even more trust in your abilities ...

Daisy said...

dear lotus,
The first thing I should learn is to learn to say no, time to time!